Dyslexia and how Solution focussed therapy, hypnotherapy and Homeopathy could help your child
I found out when I was a teenager that I was dyslexic, though by this time I had missed out on any opportunity to take exams except for my art. I remember when everyone else was doing their exams and I wondered why I wasn’t, I was later informed by a teacher that ‘they were beyond me, so there is no point in you taking them’ at the time I didn’t really care that much and just continued to live in my own world not thinking much about the future or what I might even do with my life and I think that a part of me was relieved that I wasn’t going to be subjected to exams. I’d never been encouraged to do anything or think about what I could do, because I had always struggled at school, I don’t remember anyone ever really talking to me about what I wanted to do, or if I even had any ambition. The problem was I had always been told that I couldn’t do anything and so I believed that, my dyslexia was mistaken for being not only unintelligent but uninterested in anything in life.
I was always pretty creative as a child and would spend hours drawing, making things, singing and playing my guitar, I think looking back that I just assumed that I’d be able to get a job doing something and get married one day, I guess that’s the best I thought I could do. I was really interested in the theatre and medicine, though I didn’t believe for one moment that I had the ability to train as a nurse or any medical profession, so I put that idea out of my head as quickly as it entered it and concentrated on my artistic abilities and spent a year at college doing art and drama as well as taking my English exam. When I started college I could barely read or write and so doing the English exam at the end of the year was not what I was most interested in, but my English teacher was a lovely lady who spent extra time with me after the lessons to teach me and so by the end of the year when I took a mock exam it was a little like a scene from Educating Rita, my exam result was not at the bottom of the pile as It would have been at the beginning of the year, but rather it was at the top, however, when it came to taking the actual exam I had never sat one before and was totally terrified. I remember sitting in the huge room with other students just frozen to my seat looking at the clock unable to think, to this day I don’t know what grade I got but I can’t imagine that I achieve a great grade, however, I learnt to read and write in a year and I’m sure that had the school taken as much interest in me as my teacher at college had done I could have taken all my exams and passed with the extra help. I was sadly one of those kids who was let down by the system and honestly believed what I was told, that I’d never achieve anything due to being a ‘slow child’
There are many people who still assume that being dyslexic is simply about reading and writing, but trust me when I say this, it is only the tip of the ice berg. Fortunately, the old idea that people with Dyslexia are low achievers has long since passed, though I have on the rare occasion been met with individuals who still hold this idea and seem to understand very little about the condition. Reading and writing are often an issue for those with Dyslexia for different reason, but for me personally reading has been difficult due to Irlen syndrome that I suffer with, which is often associated with Dyslexia, Irlen is a condition where the words on paper can appear to move and it affects everyone differently, but using coloured over lays can reduce this greatly. I also struggled because I could not take in what I was reading and retain in, this is a common problem for most people, but for someone with Dyslexia it is somewhat greater, it’s their short term memory that suffers and the processing memory, so for instance, if a child suffering from Dyslexia is attempting to copy from the white board in the class, from the time that they look at what they need to copy to the moment they begin to write it, some of the information that they read has already gone, so they look a the write board again to refresh their memory, and guess what, the information has been taken off and the teacher has moved on or is talking and giving the lesson whilst the child is still attempting to process what was said a few minutes earlier and copy the information into their book, this can cause a huge amount of anxiety that can be really misinterpreted, and it can even result into poor behaviour from the child because they start to give up and become disruptive. It’s easy see how a child can start falling behind at school very quickly, how their confidence can be battered and even their behaviour can suffer and this is only one aspect of how Dyslexia can affect a person.
A person suffering with dyslexia can show to have problems with sequencing, difficulties with left and right, orientation, short term memory and organisation. Despite these difficulties the British Dyslexia association have noted that these individuals do have talents in other areas of their life. Those with Dyslexia have shown to be lateral thinkers, as well as being creative and intuitive. It is important that when we recognise that an individual is dyslexic that we focus on what they can do in their life and not what they cannot do, but it’s also important that the child recognises their own strengths. In my mind I still think that world is very much set up materialistically and children can suffer with huge anxieties about their future and what they think they should be doing to fit in. Not everyone wants to be a solicitor or a doctor and there are many jobs out there that would be perfect for someone who is creative, but the pressures that children face at school can be immense for them and cause huge anxieties about their future whilst they attempt to fit in.
Although there is definitely a lot more help for people with this condition, there is still so little understood about it both in the work place and at school. Children can even suffer because they can feel excluded from their peers and it doesn’t get any easier when they enter the work place as an adult with Dyslexia, as I know from personal experience. I have suffered bullying at work in the past and a huge lack of understanding for the condition that resulted in me leaving my job due to a lack of support from my supervisors and collegues.
If we teach our children to look for the positive aspects in their life while they are still young then they will gain self confidence and stand a better chance of seeking a job that is right for them and have the confidence to go out into the world determined to not let Dyslexia hold them back.
People with this condition are just as able to succeed in life as others are, but they have to be given the tools to do this and believe that they can succeed. Solution focussed therapy and hypnotherapy can do just this because it focusses on the positive aspect of their life and helps them to see what they have achieved and continue too. Solution focused therapy and hypnotherapy helps them to rebuild their confidence and show them that they do have a lot in their life that is really positive and through this therapy they can start to notice that they are unique and an individual and that this is something to be proud of and not shy away from.
Homeopathy can be of great help also when it comes to Dyslexia especially where a child is lacking in confidence, and there are also remedies that can help with studying.
Baryta Carbonica is often prescribed for dyslexia due to the individual lacking confidence and a weak memory
Lycopodium is probably the most prescribed remedy for those who have difficulty learning writing and reading and they mix up their letters, they also have a weak memory.